It's odd.  The traits that most often bother us in others are often the traits that we dislike in ourselves.  "Do not judge, or you too will be judged.  For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." -Matthew 7:1-2.  Judge yourself first, and then lovingly forgive and help your neighbor. -Pastor Mike.